A day, then two, then perhaps a week etc. It’s a slow process (or should be) to get used to the device. Doesn’t happen !! And back in those days design and manufacturing of chastity devices left a lot to be desired. It’s amazing how many chastity porn stories have a male trapped by a female who puts an unmeasured device on him and he’s comfortable in it for the rest of the story. A lot of effort is expended on minimising the discomfort. Let’s be clear about this, a chastity device is not comfortable. You’d be surprised how many male egos get bruised when told they best suit the ‘s’ model. This is the small version – paradoxically the tighter the fit, the more comfortable. How does one convert from all those online ingrained misconceptions to the reality of a female in the flesh holding a key to that thing uncomfortably clamped around your dick ? CB-6000: The first plastic device to have a reasonable level of comfort.

All sorts of coincidences here, I learned that I’d been reading some lovely writing on Informed Consent that turned out to be hers and she’d noticed some of my own writings. If I’d seen some of her ‘strict domme’ profiles at that point I would never have had the courage to approach her. I came across her on CollarMe showing a moderate profile interested in keyholding. What I wanted to post about was escaping that trap, the path and process to learning first what the reality of chastity is and then how that sublimates in to a D/s relationship serving a domme. I know of some ‘subs’ who have spent over 20 years trapped in this behaviour and are convinced it is the real thing. We’ll come to that shortly.Įnough of my jaundiced take on this part of the online world. The payoff is that for that 1%-2% chastity is the most effective male training tool there is. That’s a lot of endured disappointment to find one sub. It was in finding that 1%-2% with potential. Only later did I grasp what the attraction was. It’s no wonder that there’s a lot of domme burnout in this area. It sure didn’t look like D/s and it seemed hard to understand what the attraction was for a female – it seemed like a lot of work handling the entitled assumption that she just loved being told how to tease a male, only to get anger and abuse for her troubles. At which point they tend to storm off in a tantrum, have their orgasm and look for the next female to swear undying loyalty to if she “keeps them in chastity”.įrom helping with the online chastity courses I can tell you that 95% last less than 3 days and few of those remaining last beyond a week.Įven before I learned the reality I knew something was wrong with this picture. The undying loyalty they swear to her lasts until she says “no, you can’t cum” once too often. They think they are being submissive if they ask a female to tease and frustrate them for a little while. The vast majority of chastity subs think chastity is a game of tease and denial. My opinion evolved as I learned the reality and became even stronger when I helped my mistress administer her online chastity courses.

I think that’s partly because I was there, swimming in that cesspit and didn’t know how divorced from the reality it was. I have a particularly low regard for the majority of chastity subs. There’s the velcro collars, the incessant “do me” and the evil of what I call the Munchhausen sub – the one who responds to a domme asking “how should I punish my sub ?” (stupid question btw) with a long list of authoritative rules mandating the extreme fantasies he masturbates to whilst never having actually been a sub.

I’m afraid that I have a very low opinion of most subs in online forums which dates back to my earliest online explorations. Suddenly one could handle something real for £100 and deeper fantasies could take root. Not a fully formed idea until the Miller’s created the CB-2000 and had the bright idea of making a website to sell it from. Loved by dommes, feared by subs due to it’s lack of anatomical correctness and poor manufacture. So here it is.īefore I knew about online sites I had some fantasy thoughts about being submissive to dominant women and one of those vague thoughts included a nod towards chastity. When I wrote it I had in mind to write a separate post relating how I migrated from the world of fantasy in to a full blown real chastity D/s relationship, which included the use of a contract. I recently published a post Consent & Contracts on how contracts in D/s can at best blur the issues of consent and at worst lead to abuse.

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